Do you really think you can train the mind to be happy? I used to think so, and read a lot of self-help books about changing my attitude to happy-flappy the world is my oyster type of thinking. But I have come to realize that happiness is the result of training the mind to focus on reality, not on happiness. Human ideas about happiness change like the wind. True happiness is a coordinated and balanced personality, a personality who can equitably negotiate between itself and other selves with an edge toward selfless interest in others.
Thank you Bonita!! Great insights.
I do think we can “train” the mind to be happy and I believe that it is so in some families and cultures today, but by example, now, rather than by any intellectual education. Happy people are teachers of happiness I think. As you say, “happiness is the result of training the mind to focus on reality”, and reality is love and service and the pursuit of truth, beauty, and goodness….reality IS happy!! The pursuit of material pleasures, properties/things, power and domination over others, etc. is identification with the lower animal mind and nature. Therefore, unhappy people are those who are not yet transferring the seat of their identity from material to spiritual. They do not recognize or respond to the fact of our dual nature and the truth that happiness comes only from one side of that dual nature.
This is a fact – a universal fact and truth. The pursuit of happiness only results in happiness by the adoption and embrace of specific motivations, intentions, and priorities….to know God within and join the family of God’s creation by faith and in loving service one to another. Is this not a knowledge we share here? Is it not a knowledge that happy people may impart to the young, the disenfranchised, and the unhappy people of the world who seek happiness in all the wrong places and by all the wrong methods, and do so and fail so by the simple fact of the inferiority of their motives, intentions, and priorities in living?
I imagine the ratio of happy people to unhappy people is an actual, empirical measurement of planetary, epochal progress. And those born into Light and Life, are “trained”, by example and by actual education, that happiness is the fruit of reality alignment within. One of the most surprising teachings to me is the inherent value and benefit of uncertainty! An eye opener. There can be no adventure without it….uncertainty in the intersections of situation, circumstance, and personalities in time are beautiful in and of themselves to the discerning mind, whose confidence does not require certainty of choice or outcome. We are to feast and fatten on this form of beauty in our experience. Anticipation of the unknown and the uncertain adds a wonderful flavor and element of discovery in our lives. This, to me, is the more difficult lesson…to be happy, not despite of, but because of uncertainty as the source of wonder and adventure every day.
100:4.1 (1097.5) Religious living is devoted living, and devoted living is creative living, original and spontaneous. New religious insights arise out of conflicts which initiate the choosing of new and better reaction habits in the place of older and inferior reaction patterns. New meanings only emerge amid conflict; and conflict persists only in the face of refusal to espouse the higher values connoted in superior meanings.
100:4.2 (1097.6) Religious perplexities are inevitable; there can be no growth without psychic conflict and spiritual agitation. The organization of a philosophic standard of living entails considerable commotion in the philosophic realms of the mind. Loyalties are not exercised in behalf of the great, the good, the true, and the noble without a struggle. Effort is attendant upon clarification of spiritual vision and enhancement of cosmic insight. And the human intellect protests against being weaned from subsisting upon the nonspiritual energies of temporal existence. The slothful animal mind rebels at the effort required to wrestle with cosmic problem solving.
100:4.3 (1097.7) But the great problem of religious living consists in the task of unifying the soul powers of the personality by the dominance of love. Health, mental efficiency, and happiness arise from the unification of physical systems, mind systems, and spirit systems. Of health and sanity man understands much, but of happiness he has truly realized very little. The highest happiness is indissolubly linked with spiritual progress. Spiritual growth yields lasting joy, peace which passes all understanding.
Thanks all!!
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